"Don't Ask, Don't Tell"


Dear Jack,

i am a bottom barebacker. i usually have at least 5 loads in my ass on the weekends. not every weekend, but most. i either go to bareback parties, sex clubs or bath houses. i enjoy it immensely. i never ask if the guy is positive or negative. i have been doing this for about 2 years. before these last 2 years, i used to, at least, get 1 or 2 loads on the weekends. i have been tested for hiv 3 times and each time i've been negative.

this last weekend i was at a bareback party that ended with just myself and two other guys. the guys were fucking me at the same time, with both cocks in me, and it was so hot!! i told the one guy who was actually fucking me, because the other guy just had his cock all the way in me, to cum inside of me. he then stopped fucking, but stayed in me and said, "are you sure? i'm positive." i didn't hesitate because i was so hot and i said, "i don't care. shoot in my hole!" about less than a minute later this guy shot a huge load in my ass. we stopped and i went to the bathroom to shoot out his cum, which most of it did not come out. he then said goodbye and left. the other guy fucked me for another hour and also shot a huge load inside of me.

my question to you is, how long do i have to wait in order to take an accurate test? also, what do u think my chances are of being positive after this? i know i probably have been fucked by hiv positive guys, but the thing is, i wasn't worried about it because i didn't know and i didn't ask. this guy told me outright and i gave him permission to shoot in me. i'm a little worried but i continue to bareback because i luv it, enjoy it and i have been negative, which for me is actually saying something because i have been fucked a lot by many, many, many, many guys.

do u think i have a reason to be worried? should i stop barebacking? i ask you these questions because you seem to be knowledgable in this area and i believe i would trust your opinion. please email me back if you get the chance. thanks a lot.

~ Pacjr

Dear PacJr.,

First of all, why the fuck aren't you in MY town? DAMN! You have the kind of bottom boy attitude this top loves to find in a fuck.

Anyway, you present quite an interesting series of questions, and I imagine that they are quite common among negative men who routinely bottom. I know of several who only get fucked bareback and crave cum shots deep in their holes, who like yourself never ask their partners regarding their status. Only one of them has ever sero-converted as a result. The others may not know for sure, but one tells me he consistently receives neagtive tests.

There is one problem... there is no sure answer for why this is occurring, since nobody knows how many positive partners they have had if any, and the notion that some people are immune to the HIV virus is only (I repeat ONLY) speculation at this point. None of these men are involved in any HIV vaccine study, either. So that doesn't even factor in.

The most widely accepted time frame for sero conversion is 6 - 8 months, which is why most testing places request you get tested every 6 months. Some guys who are negative get tested every three. If something did show up on their test, chances are good that they received the virus 6 to 8 months prior to that test. The three-month interval simply alerts you to any changes in your sero status a little earlier than you might discover on the 6 month interval.

Now, here's the crucial situation: you KNOW an HIV-positive man came up your ass. And now there's a little nagging voice in your head. Nasty bugger, isn't it? I had the same kind of thing occur once when I fucked a guy I knew was positive, and my PA (which I had just upgraded to a 6 from an 8 guage and couldn't remove by hand) caused him to bleed. I noticed it right before I blew my load in his ass, but my desire to cum inside him was greater than my fear of his blood. Afterward, I went to his bathroom and washed my cock with antibacterial soap (as if that would help). And I worried about it days afterward. I washed my dick a lot in those following days. When my last test came up negative again, I breathed a sigh of relief. But I allowed doubt to enter into my mind, and I am not sure that is always healthy.

They say "What you fear, you draw near". And the more you focus on that incident, the more it will worry you and the more you might obsess. Ever hear of a "self-fulfilling prophecy"? Don't go there.

You have some options, but first let me present a question. You say he blew a huge load in your ass. Are you certain? After all, you said only a little came out. Might it be that he just grunted and groaned for a lot longer than it took him to unload inside you? It's worth contemplating.

So, your options are to continue on as you have, devil may care and status unknown, or you can start being a little more selective about your partners and seek out only HIV negative guys. It's a bit more difficult to find strictly negative men to fuck you without a rubber, but trust me, they ALL love it once you get them to skip the rubber and just do it.

My recommendation: be a bit more selective. As a bottom, your chances of dodging the AIDS bullet are greater that way. If that interferes too much with your slut career (of which you should be proud), I would recommend asking first so you can decide whether or not you want your trick to cum inside you... you CAN say "no" to positive guys. Most will understand and respect your request. But get that in the clear before you start. Making that decision at the point when he's about ready to unload in you is a bad plan. You know from experience where that can lead.

Of course, if that isn't an option and you just HAVE to have your ass creamed by every dick that finds its way in your hole and damn the consequences, I would say DON'T ASK, if only for your peace of mind. But nonetheless, cointinue to get your HIV tests at regular intervals. They too can bring some peace of mind, regardless of the results.

Now for Madame Jack's psychic Reading:

Your Tarot Card: Number 0, The Fool.

The Rider Tarot, copyright 1971, US Games I bring this up, not to call you a fool, but to point out that this card in the Tarot means an absolute trust in fate. The card is most often represented by the image of a young man, with all his meager belongings slung in a bag over his shoulder, about to take a step off the edge of a cliff, all the while looking up to the heavens for protection. The card is not named "The Fool" for the modern and derrogatory definition of "fool". It is more indicative of an innocent, happy-go-lucky nature. That's where I see you now. It was an image that came to mind while writing this, so I thought I'd throw it in for you.

Your first reading is free, future readings will cost you your hot little cum-hungry ass.

Good luck, and I hope your fortune holds out.

~Bareback Jack.