Dear Jack,
Great column you have there.
I was wondering about cock rings – how to use them, I seem to have difficulty getting them over my cock and balls and it can be unpleasant taking them off again too. Are there ones which may be worn all the time – I note several have warnings about leaving them on for a set period of time. I do like the feeling when I get them on, but don’t want to do any damage and could use some advice on how best/easiest to fit and remove them.
Thanks
Dougie, NZ
The following cockring styles can be purchased from Mr. S. Leathers in San Francisco by clicking on the photo of any of the examples you like.
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Dear Dougie,
Let me see if I can take away some of the mystery for you in putting on a cockring. But first, let’s discuss the different types of basic cockrings that are out there. In doing so, we might find a better cockring for you to wear. Remember that each type has its advantages and disadvantages.
First, there’s the standard ubiquitous metal cockring, which is, for all intents and purposes, nothing more than a metal "O" ring, usually made out of steel that has been nickel or chrome plated. Some can be found in brass or stainless steel as well. These come in various sizes, though I have noticed that American sex shops don’t carry the variety they used to. More on this later. The biggest advantage of this type of ring is that they are readily available and not terribly expensive. The biggest disadvantage is that they can be one of the most difficult to get into and out of for the uninitiated.
The next most common type is the rubber "O" ring which looks like a small vacuum-cleaner belt. Again, these come in various sizes, and are usually black in color. These are super-cheap and have some flexibility making them easier to put on, take off, and wear for longer periods than the metal ones. And, because they are of a thinner gauge than the metal ones, they can be worn in multiples of two or three if desired.
Another type is the gel or jelly variety, which looks as though it might be made of the same stuff gummi bears are made of ~ but of course they aren’t. These are more expensive, come in many colors from solid black to bright pastels and clear colors, and they also come with certain enhancements such as nubs and ridges to supposedly "enhance ‘her’ pleasure." That’s just marketing BS, because, as they sit at the base of one’s cock, they aren’t gonna go into any orifice deep enough for anyone to really notice. In actuality, they just look more interesting than an O ring. The big advantage to these is that they stretch ~ quite a bit, actually ~ and they maintain their tensile strength. These are the easiest unbroken rings to get in and out of, and they work with you as your erection ebbs and flows, so to speak. I’ve found it’s best to put these on after you get hard, as they can prevent the necessary flow of blood into the penis if they go on beforehand. Because of that, you probably don’t want to wear them when you’re not engaged in sex.
There are some metal cockrings that are often described as ‘cockbands’ or ‘donuts’. These are heavy, thick bands of steel, either chromed or stainless, that look very butch. They are quite expensive and some can be a chore to get in and out of. Their weight can sometimes be a disadvantage especially for men with low hangers, as they are more prone to follow the law of gravity, and can slip down the penis shaft and scrotum, causing difficulty to the wearer. I’ve had mine slip down to trap my cockhead and balls together when I start to get hard. For men whose balls hang lower than their penis, it can literally fall right off prior to erection.
Adult novelty stores often carry hard plastic rings in various colors, some even glow in the dark, or have electrodes or vibrators attached to them. These tend to be thicker than the metal or rubber ones for good reason… they might break in pieces during sex if they are too thin or worn too tight. They are usually in the mid- to expensive range and pose the same level of ease/difficulty to get in and out of as metal rings.
Then we have a whole set of adjustable cockrings that are made of other materials, such as leather or fabric. Most of these have 2 or 3 snaps so they can be tightened or loosened at will. That is an advantage. However, the disadvantage is that they can be too loose at one setting and too tight at the next. A cockring called a "ten-speed" has numerous snaps in close proximity to each other, offering a more perfect fit.
Other adjustables include ones that buckle like a small belt or an old-fashioned luggage strap. Again, they can be too loose or tight depending on the spacing of the holes. And in my experience the buckle isn't all that comfortable, especially while fucking. If you bang your mate hard, you can cut the skin around his anus with the buckle. There are also cockrings with Velcro closures, which allow for the most personalized fit possible. These can be difficult to clean once lube gets in the hooks and loops of the Velcro, and over time, the Velcro can come unstitched, making the cockring rather worthless. Prices vary.
Lastly, there’s a whole range of makeshift cockrings that can be made using plain old human ingenuity. String, shoelaces, old strips of cloth, soft nylon rope, rubber bands, etc. can be tied or wound around the cock to act as a cockring in a pinch, or by design. I’ve seen some men with thick members encircle their goodies with a handcuff (though I cannot imagine this to be comfortable). The sky is the limit if you’re creative enough. Even another man’s fingers wrapped tightly around the base of your cock can perform the same function. I’d recommend avoiding fine string-like materials such as dental floss or fishing line however, as these items can cut through the skin quite easily, and that would be most counter-productive. And barbed wire is out of the question… for most.
There are even more varieties that go beyond the basic; some more complicated in design than others, some with various attachments or fastening devices, some designed to facilitate chastity, and some made of materials I haven’t covered. I would recommend getting the hang of putting on basic cockrings before advancing on to more intricate designs.
Now… how to get yourself into a cockring? The easiest and best way to get into one is to go balls-first. Drop your testicles into the ring and follow that by pushing your cockmeat through (head first, of course). Then draw the ring snug against your pubic mound. To get out, reverse the process. Lube helps immensely, especially if you’re in any state of arousal. Don’t try to force a hard cock into a solid ring. If you bend it too much in the attempt, you could risk a particular type of damage to your cock known as penile fracture.
A guy CAN get trapped in a solid cockring if it is too tight once he is hard, and if the ring is too small for his equipment. That can be a very disturbing experience, and some men have actually had to go to emergency rooms to have the rings cut off. DO NOT try that at home! To understand why this happens, it’s helpful to understand how an erection works. In short, you get a hardon when more blood flows into the tissue of the penis than is allowed to escape, sort of like filling a balloon with water. A cockring that is too tight will prevent blood from flowing out when you want it to, and the only way to start the normal outbound flow again is to remove the thing that is preventing the blood from leaving. If you are determined to use a solid cockring or cock band, you should first measure around your equipment to get an idea of which size would be best to buy. Here’s how:
Start by getting a hard-on. Then, take a tape measure or a piece of string and wrap it around your junk behind your balls (where the ring will eventually fit). Make sure it’s snug but don’t pull too tight so as to constrict blood flow. Read that measure. That will tell you the diameter of the ring you want. Don’t go much smaller than that if you want to get in or out of your ring easily. And DON’T use your cock circumference as your measure, unless you’re getting a small one to fit just the shaft of your cock.
If you can’t find the right size at your local sex shop, consider checking out your favorite hardware store. They sell "O" rings in rubber and galvanized steel. The galvanized ones may not look as shiny, but the chances of getting the proper size to fit is greater. If you find you have too much difficulty getting in and out of a solid ring, or if wearing one causes you to feel a pain in the groin, try switching to a softer material or an adjustable ring.
Always wash your cockring before you use it the first time, and after sex too. Manufacturing processes can leave a residue that can cause an allergic reaction, and sexual lubricants can build up on your ring or corrode it and make it look and smell grungy over time.
As a rule, you should only wear a cockring when you’re having sex. It’s not a good idea to wear one (especially a metal one) when traveling or going to Jury Duty, or school, or any situation where metal detectors are used. It’s OK to slip into one before you exhibit your dick to your partner (nothing says "I’m ready" quite like opening your trousers to show him a ring smiling back from the base of your manhood), but once you’re done having sex and your cock begins to soften, take the thing off. You can damage your babymaker by leaving it on too long. Also, if you keep a hardon for long periods of time, or if you’re engaged in sex for more than a half hour or so, give your dick a reprieve from it for a while. Try alternating having it on and off. That will work to your benefit by minimizing blood vessel and nerve damage. And if you start feeling a pain in your cock or groin, remove the cockring immediately. Pain is the body’s signal that something is definitely not right.
One last word of caution… Pfizer does not recommend wearing a cockring while using Viagra (or any other erection enhancement medication) for the very reason that you could acquire priapism (a perpetual hard-on), which can be both painful and dangerous and may lead to thrombosis (blood clotting) in the penis. Best case scenario: temporary pain and/or blackening of the penis due to a ruptured vessel. Worst-case scenario: gangrene of the penis and mandatory amputation. So ask yourself… what do you need a cockring for if you’re taking that little blue boner booster to stiffen your stick?
I hope this guide helps you (and many other readers) select the best cockrings for your needs! Oh, and I’m pleased to know you enjoy "Dear Jack"! I enjoy researching and writing it.
~Bareback Jack.
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